Myra's story
Myra and her two children, Yasmin and Hassan, were three of the most vulnerable displaced people to join our community after fleeing the Syrian War. We have changed their names to protect their identities, as Myra has been subjected to domestic abuse from her former husband.
​The family left Damascus when the bombs came too close to home in 2017. After travelling to the border town of Idlib, they walked overnight to reach Turkey, before eventually being resettled by the UK government almost a year later.
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As a consequence of the abusive relationship, Myra and her two children were forced to move around the UK before they were able to find a safe haven in Surrey. Elmbridge CAN played a key role in supporting them through this nomadic existence until they finally secured social housing. The charity provided continuous support throughout the ordeal, including one-to-one English lessons, financial assistance, food bank vouchers, help with visa and immigration matters, and – perhaps most importantly - emotional support.
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The vulnerability of the family was accentuated by the language barrier, and it was in this field that Huda stepped in to become the crucial go-between that enabled the family to rebuild their shattered lives.
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Huda has lived in Oxshott for over three decades. After moving to London from Saudi Arabia, she then left the city for the Surrey town and set up an interior design business and also worked in the local flower shop on the high street. During her time here she has worked as an Arabic translator on an ad hoc basis.
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“I got a call from the council as there had been a case of domestic abuse towards the mother and the family,” Huda explains.” They had been put in emergency accommodation in West Molesey for six weeks. I met them and saw how vulnerable they were. I spoke to Jeannie from Elmbridge CAN, the charity was doing so much to support them. From there they moved to Croydon. Displaced people become very anxious each time you move them around. I visited them in Croydon and after three months, after speaking to the council, we managed to secure a room for them at a hotel nearer where Hassan was having English lessons. They stayed there for four months and then from there we got a one-bed place in Thames Ditton before finally moving on to Oxshott. Volunteers from Elmbridge CAN had been helping with English lessons and Hassan’s English improved massively.”
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“In the beginning it was so hard,” Hassan adds. “We’ve been in so many areas. We started out in Preston and then moved to places like Kingston, London and Croydon, just waiting for housing. I have worked in a restaurant and a factory. I would do any job with no experience needed. The home and the area we have found now are nice, I love it. I got a bicycle from Elmbridge CAN that really helps me travel around.”
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Older sister Yasmin has moved out of the home and is now building an independent life as a young adult. Myra still struggles with the language, but with Hassan and Huda’s support she finally feels settled and secure.
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“Myra really wants to contribute and she has found work as a carer and is also doing some shifts as a cleaner,” Huda continues. “They have been able to pay their way and the council has found some social housing in Oxshott. Hassan is making great progress with English and after being so vulnerable beforehand, with so much fear from the war and their domestic abuse, they now feel secure and capable.”
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“We are hard-working, and Syrians are very resilient,” Myra says. “We have been through so much. No matter how many times we fall, we bring ourselves up.”
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With the support of Elmbridge CAN and individuals like Huda, the family have finally been able to put a traumatic past behind them and can look to the future with hope and belief.
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“I want to be a hairdresser,” Hassan, now aged 22, reveals. “I have got a set of clippers and I am practising giving haircuts to my friends. In the beginning they didn’t trust me but when I showed them I could do it they gave me a chance. I would love to get a job doing that in Oxshott.”
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“I know so many people here, who are extremely genuine and want to help when I tell them about Elmbridge CAN,” Huda concludes. “I have been really happy living here, it’s so relaxed and a lovely, friendly environment. I think Myra and Hassan are feeling this, too.”